In every walk of life, the people who are part of a community live, buy, sell, trade things and ideas. How is it possible to get across what we are wanting or needing? Communication is one of the biggest ways that we conduct all these things. It is instilled in us from birth. Being a father of four I can recall seeing my beautiful children for the first time and feeling their little bodies in my arms and hands. Before they were born, I would rub my wifes stomach and the baby would respond. I would talk to them, and they would respond to that as well. When they were born, I would caress their faces and they would know that it was out of endearment. As they get older and get in trouble, I can look at them and get a point across. We can use words, writing, signals, and even our voices to communicate.
Communication is one of the keys of life that links mankind together. If there is a person that does not speak the same language as you, you can still get your point across to them using gestures or sounds. According to Boss (2016), there are four types of communication, and they include assertive, aggressive, passive and passive-aggressive styles. In my own opinion I do believe that men and women differ in many ways, that is how we were created to be. As for the communication aspect, I think that it depends on how a person was raised and what personal life experiences they have been exposed to. Growing up I was raised to be polite and have good manners such as yes sir, no sir. Till this day I try to use tac, but when I joined the Marine Corps, my family said that I would be extremely polite, and my manners were tip top. I suppose it is because that is what is instilled in you day in and day out in boot camp. As time went on, I saw changes in my attitude, people started irritating me and childish behavior was annoying. I would catch my self being very blunt and to the point, still using tac. Fast forward a little further and now these days I dont worry so much about hurting peoples feelings if it is warranted and I tell people as I see it. My wife and I were High School sweethearts, and she were not a very outspoken person and she seemed to let people walk all over her. As she became more experienced in life, she has become a lot like me by being nice and polite but will tell people how it is when needed. It was and is amazing to see and watch the woman she has become.
According to Business Development (2018), women tend to communicate with more facial expressions and gesturing than men do, and men tend to not make as much eye contact and are more relaxed than women. From communicating with my wife, I would say this is true. However, I have been told many times by many different people that I talk a lot with my face, and it really comes out if I do not agree with someone or if I think they are ridiculous. This may be because I am trying to be nice and focus on what I say, and it comes out in look. My wife and I have conversations all the time and most are good, I can only think of a few times where things were not so nice. She is very passive aggressive and shuts down, and when she gets aggravated, she gets that southern bell stare much like Scarlett OHara from Gone with the Wind. When I get mad or frustrated, I have noticed that I cross my arms and get quiet for a minute trying to level my self and the non-verbal communication comes out strong.
Men and women differ, and many ways and people say that they differ in communication when it comes to sex. In my personal belief I think that to an extent that may be true, but I think life experiences and cultural surroundings have a huge impact on a persons communication style.
